You are Enough

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” 

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Throughout my life, I’ve encountered countless reasons to believe I could be better. Not because of any major, defining events, but a build-up of small moments: the pressure to fit in at school, the frustration of being told I wasn’t living up to my “potential,” exam results that fell short in others’ eyes, the ups and downs of friendships and relationships, the scrutiny of being an actress, and the unrelenting comparisons on social media. Each of these moments left its mark, reinforcing the belief that I wasn’t enough.

But here’s what I’ve realised: the weight of “not enough” only lingers when I let it. Other people’s words hold power only when they echo my own. The change needed wasn’t in the world around me—it was in me.

Breaking the Cycle of Criticism and Avoidance

For years, I tried to navigate life by swinging between two extremes: pushing myself with relentless self-criticism or avoiding discomfort altogether. When the inner critic got too loud, my instinct was to bury my head in the sand, hoping that ignoring the problem would make it disappear.

Yet, avoidance didn’t bring relief; it brought stagnation. I was trapped in a cycle of gripping anxiety and freezing dissociation, unable to move forward or truly feel safe in my own skin.

The Power of Embodiment

What I’ve learned is that real safety doesn’t come from hiding—it comes from staying present, even in discomfort. By connecting with my body and emotions, I began to access a deep sense of grounding and strength.

When we disconnect from ourselves—whether through numbing, overthinking, or shutting down—we lose access to the innate wisdom, resilience, and healing that exists within us. Reclaiming that connection requires gentleness, patience, and the willingness to feel—even when it’s uncomfortable.

Tools for Transformation: EFT Tapping and Safety Anchors

At the end of last year, I had a wake-up call. Despite all my tools and experience, I realised I was still relying on old habits of self-criticism and avoidance. The whispers of “You’re falling behind” and “You’re not doing enough” were paralysing.

So, I turned to one of my most trusted tools: EFT tapping. Speaking my internal dialogue aloud while tapping on specific points on my body gave me a new perspective. What had felt normal in my mind suddenly sounded harsh and untrue.

Tapping helped me uncover the beliefs behind those words and loosen their hold. I also began to resource myself with memories and moments where I felt enough—times of success, safety, and joy. Surrounding myself with supportive elements—like clothes that made me feel confident, objects that grounded me, and people who uplifted me—became part of this process.

The Freedom of Safety

Finding safety within myself has been transformative. It has quietened the anxiety that once gripped me and replaced it with a sense of freedom. I’ve learned to embrace discomfort as part of the human experience, rather than something to fear or avoid.

The repetition of feeling safe, even in small moments, rewires old beliefs. With each act of kindness toward myself, I’m creating a new narrative—one where progress feels possible and growth feels empowering.

A Space of Encouragement

This journey isn’t something I’ve done alone, nor is it something I reserve just for myself. I use the same tools—EFT tapping, craniosacral therapy, and more—to help others reconnect with their bodies, release limiting beliefs, and find safety within.

I want to be a source of encouragement for you, helping you uncover your own sense of safety and self-compassion. Even the smallest shift can create a ripple effect, leading to lasting change in your day-to-day life.

Choose Safety, Choose Kindness

If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, take a moment to pause and reflect. What does your inner voice sound like? Is it kind? Is it true? If it isn’t, now is the time to rewrite that script.

Surround yourself with resources that anchor you: memories of times you’ve succeeded, objects that ground you, people who make you feel seen. Kindness and safety are powerful foundations for growth, far more effective than criticism or fear.

This year, let’s focus on embodying the belief that we are enough—not because of what we achieve, but because of who we are. That belief is where transformation begins.

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