New Year, Same old me

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New Year…same old me.

For the last 4 years I have not set a single new year resolution (here is last years new year post). This year I have not even given myself an expectation as to how I will change over the year! January is a month for hibernation. Almost always, the coldest, greyest and hardest month of the year. Yet we use it to make big changes? Its bonkers. I take my time in January to see how things settle. My mum died in January 4 years ago, it certainly changed my perspective and many things happened that year to teach me how to live. To live each day the best I can, not as fast as I can.

Last year I did a huge amount of work on releasing fear, anger and resentment. It culminated in me taking a huge stand for myself and walking away from the clinic I was working in to be me. So why would I want to make a list of things I want to change? Every year I try to urge others to wait for spring to make big changes. Otherwise, use January/February  to be kind to yourself, to recharge and be ready to renew.

I recently read something from someone else about being mediocre. “Do you want to live a mediocre life?”. I have taken time to think about this. I have always answered “NO WAY” to this in the past. The answer I have come up for now is this. 

YES

Yes, right now I am absolutely comfortable with being mediocre. Anyone who knows me will be surprised at my answer. Yeah right, the Louise who loves the stage, the limelight, who wants everyone to want and need her around.

Don’t get me wrong, I still know I am brilliant! I know how much I can help others and the world around me, however, right now I am ok with not doing that. Especially not in the same way as I have before. I have been so angry over the years, with the way the world works. Lies, propaganda and corporate greed are a fact of life. YES every small step we take towards change will change our world. Every time we take a look within ourselves and get a little closer to gratitude and self love there is a huge energy shifts around us. These changes are sustainable, these changes are for life. So I am hoping to make mediocre changes this year. Be smaller and quieter in what I say and definitely, how I say it. 

Mediocre is often kinder. it is less pushy and demanding, less bright and bold. Maybe thats what the majority of us need right now. We all know what we need to do to be happier- it is all around us, everyone pushing and shoving to get you to use their way to self-love, health, happiness and (of course still all we want is…) the perfect body. For now I am going to be me. I have not got the perfect body or the perfect solutions. I do have a huge bunch of tools to help you to find yours. I can use my small ways to help you to find beyond mediocre. However I choose not to push my way in front of you, for you to find me and me to help guide you to yourself.

I will take my time slowly and carefully, watching and waiting. There is huge opportunity to be found in 2016. There is no rush, no deadline to be brilliant. Once you take that pressure away, see what you need and really want. What will your body tell you when you take away this forced need to be something else. Where will you go, what will you experience. I have not been anywhere since Easter (apart from Macau, but that is a home from home). Normally I would have really itchy feet, need to be and go and see. I am really feeling more grounded, secure and safe being in the same place for more than a couple of months. Finding the holiday in the everyday rather than living full speed ahead to breaks. So am I happy being average, steady and contained, for now I am.

2016 will be full of ups and downs, just like all the years before it. I am looking forward to what comes my way. I have taken January to be quiet, hibernating, preparing for the opportunity and life of spring and summer. I have catered to my needs and been happy to be out of the spotlight- for now!

How about you, are you content with mediocre?

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Practice what you Preach

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It is really important to me to live as natural life as possible. I use my air conditioning as little as possible, drive the car only when necessary and try to buy the best food our budget allows. Everyone is an individual and will have a different drive and priorities. Their life is there life and my life is mine.

That being said, I find often that the people who I am drawn to and who are drawn to me have a reason to be in my life. I find myself saying things to clients over and over again, advice I recognise often as advice I am repeating for my own benefit as much as for theirs. I find this quite freaky sometimes. I also have a daughter who is my mirror and I constantly find myself hearing things I need to change within myself first. I cannot expect her to speak to me in a certain way if I am not prepared to moderate how I speak to her sometimes (for example I NEED to stop shouting!). 

Recently I have found myself saying over and over,

“you are important, you need to be kind to yourself, if you don’t put yourself first- you are no good to anyone one else.”

I need to practice what I preach- daily

This is to clients, I see clients of all ages who are looking for weight management, digestive issues, hormone imbalances, energy, fertility, skin health, and pain release. All of whom have this central core issue (amongst others) that I resonate with. Physician heal thyself is something I constantly repeat to myself. Following through is the hard part. 

I recently spoke to a friend who identified that people don’t want to change their diet. They want to eat all the things they are told are treats, will comfort them and will make them feel better. All lies of course, we all know that we don’t feel better on poor ingredient chocolate, biscuits, crisps or other ‘junk’, we all feel worse. Guilt, poor energy, bloating and stomach upsets are common. Change is hard, we know its necessary but it is still hard. People want magic pills to change everything to what we think will make our bodies and lives perfect. It does not exist, we know that. Not only that but some of the backlash and aggression you get from others when you do try to change (which is all based on their guilt because they know they should be doing the same) can be really really hard to take. Especially when it comes from family and friends.

On the other end of the stick are you constantly punishing yourself by denying yourself things your body may be looking for, striving for physical perfection (which you will never achieve unless you like yourself!), ignoring symptoms or just obsess over being a number on the scales or in clothes. For who- for you or for others to accept you. Do you constantly judge people by their appearance- are you ideals even attainable and sustainable in a healthy, happy, balanced life? We all need to start with ourselves. 

When I think about all the changes I have made in my life over the last 10-15 years from when my journey began I am astounded by how far I have come. Yet I still dodge changing some core beliefs that I have about myself and what my future could be like. I am a constant work in progress just like I tell my clients! I use affirmations, eft and Bach Flower remedies to help to consciously and unconsciously change my thought patterns, reactions and emotional ups and downs and I am getting better and better at listening to myself saying the good stuff, stuff which drives you forward and upward. 

I believe I am worth it now, I am worth my own effort and I can and do achieve amazing things. I said out loud for one of the first times the other day- I like what I see in the mirror– and I meant it. Someone tried to tell me that I needed to change for others to listen to my advice and it didn’t shake my belief that I like me just the way I am. It has made the slug through in my lifetime worth it, for that sense of courage and belief.

If you find yourself giving advice to friends and family over and over again, find yourself complaining about the same traits in others or your kids/hubby/wife- sit back and listen. Do you practice what you preach? Are you doing the best for yourself? 

Anything is possible

Find a way to reconnect with nature, through eating REAL food, going outside or simply taking sometime to focus solely on breathing. Work out what is really important to you and what it is you want from your life and use it to drive you forward. Try and change how you speak to yourself. To change a core belief you have to start with changing your thoughts, to change actions to change habits to change how your life will continue!

Thanks to hindsight photography for taking pictures I am proud of- they look like the real me!

Here is another!

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